What might not be appreciated, by the average person, is how much energy an illness can take.
Everything that you do, from getting up in the morning, to going to work, to eating, to engaging with other people, to bathing, to remembering to buy groceries, doing the laundry-all that takes energy, mental and physical.
If anyone is familiar with ‘spoon theory’, it’s a good general starting point.
But another way of thinking of it is akin to the battery on an iPhone.
Now, you start the day fully charged.
There are days that you can start with less than 100%.
Poor sleep, no sleep, nightmares-all of these can start you lower, so let’s say, 70-85%.
But there’s also a lack of consistency on how much energy a task can take.
Normally, getting up, getting dressed, eating breakfast? It doesn’t drain the battery at all.
But sometimes it’s as if the phone is trying to load an update and you spend twenty minutes staring at a pan because you can’t collect yourself enough to remember how to cook an egg and suddenly you have 20% battery and have to go into power saving mode just so you can eat something, and end up with a bowl of cereal and a blank expression.
Or you can spend fifteen minutes trying to shake off a nightmare, and by the time you’re out the door your battery is at 50-65%.
Then you have to get to wherever you’re going. Let’s assume work.
If you’re driving, you have to use energy to watch the road, the other drivers-keep yourself safe and on time from home to work. If you’re on public transportation, you try to get a seat, but that’s not always possible, so the crowding wears down on you.
So by the time you get to work you have less than 50% battery.
And the work day hasn’t even started.
But you have to work. You have to endure. You have to get home again. Eat dinner. Go to sleep.
But sleep doesn’t fill your battery all the way.
And you get up. Endure another day. Go home. Get up again.
Until the day you wake up, and there’s nothing. You can’t get up, and that realization makes you cry silently with exhaustion, until even that is too much, and all you can do is stare silently at the wall.
And wonder what the hell you are supposed to do.